Maturity and Responsibility
In a terrific InfoQ.com talk on software craftsmanship, Kevlin Henney uttered a great line: “Growing old is mandatory. Growing up is optional.” In a Twitter exchange on the topic, @dancres concocted an equi-wise line: “I like ‘growing old disgracefully’“.
At age 55, as all you two regular readers well know, I have yet to exercise my option. At this point in time, I have no plan to ever exercise it. Hell, I’m not even sure I have a choice in the matter. For all I know, my genetic core may forbid it.
The reason I abhor the concepts of “growing up” and “getting your shit together” is because my main motivational force comes from Dick Werthimer: “The purpose of life is to fight maturity“. Another reason is that I don’t equate “growing up” (aka marching toward maturity) with “becoming more responsible“, or child-like with child-ish. I think one can be simultaneously immature AND responsible. A third reason is that I’ve watched family and friends “grow up” over the years and I’m not thrilled with the patterns of bland, too-serious behavior that “growing up” leads to.
How about you, dear reader? What are your thoughts on the relationship between maturity and responsibility?